Miscarriage is devastating and can cause immensely personal feelings of sadness and of loss for many couples. Along with these feelings of sadness can be a sense of guilt whereby the couple feel they are somehow responsible for this outcome.
The word ‘failure’ is often used to describe the process or outcome of this situation. Whilst appropriately the word ‘failure’ is used to describe a biomechanical or hormonal issue as the reason why a miscarriage has occurred. The word ‘failure’ has somehow become a personal humanised descriptor attaching itself to the people who are trying to create new life, layering them with feelings of blame and responsibility rather than describing the process.
Having looked after thousands of women for pre-pregnancy and pregnancy for more than 25 years it still saddens me that there is this stigma surrounding miscarriage and a societal fear to openly talk about it that still exists today.